Long distance relationships get a bit of a hard time.
Yes, those days when the sun is out and you fancy a spontaneous beer in the sunshine with the one you love are impossible, and yes, you do miss them like mad but there’s some really great things about being in an LDR…
Solitude is actually fine
I’m quite an independent person anyway, but I think it’s great that in the early days when all you want to do is see the other person non-stop, you’re forced to spend some time on your own. It sets a precedence that you still need your own time and need to keep doing things that make you, you.
Communication gets more meaningful
Did I think I’d end up having a nightly conversation for two hours in which I cover off everything I’ve eaten in one day? No. Did I expect to find someone where a FaceTime at the end of the day was our only way of seeing each other? No. Yet there’s something in speaking face to face for hours each day that makes me thankful for the distance – you put the effort in and get to know each other really well, in a short space of time.
Time together feels like a luxury
It’s easy to fall into a trap of doing amazing things every time you are together but we’ve always tried to keep things relatively normal. Note: hella lot of Netflix and the occasional takeaway. The distance means we’re happy doing the most mundane things – just because we’re doing them together. I love it that you really appreciate each other.
Little things matter
A little card hidden away in your bag when you unpack when you get home, or a surprise letter or present mid-week are a little ‘hello I’m thinking about you’ that you crave so much when the one you want is miles away. It’s the old fashioned way but gets missed so often in today’s world of smartphones and screens.
You start to read each other really well
There’s nothing worse than living miles away and just wanting some time with the person you care about after a bad day. I’ve found we’ve got to know each other’s facial expressions and moods well in a short space of time – it’s a way of feeling connected and supported despite the lack of physical presence I guess.
It’s safe to say living apart from Col hasn’t been the easiest and it’s definitely had it’s bumps in the road – but as we move to the next stage of our relationship, I definitely feel grateful that things weren’t so easy to start with. The distance has made me certain that I’m doing the right thing, and has made sure that I’ve not lost out on all the hard work creating an independent life for my self.
LDR, you rock.